“When are you getting married?”

The following is an excerpt from Episode 52 – “When are you getting married?”. Listen to the whole episode on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.

It seems like after halloween, the rest of the year just sprints on by. Its a whirlwind of awkward family gatherings and drinking.

This year will be very different for me, as I won’t be able to go back to my hometown or spend the holidays with my family. Don’t get me wrong, I am pretty sad about that but a big part of me feels this huge weight off my shoulders. Jon and I have now been together for a little over two years, and this will be our third holiday season together. and the odds are stacked against us to be able to escape without the invevitable awkwardness of the crown question couples get during the holidays “when are you getting married?” Or even better “when are you having kids?”

UGH – just the thought of some relative that I haven’t spoken to since last Christmas or Thanksgiving coming up to me to ask that sends a chill up my spine.

I don’t say that because I’m scared of commitment or don’t want to get married and have babies with jon. That’s not that I’m not necessarily ready for that. Its just like ~whyyyyyy~ do I need to. I’m very very happy with the place that I’m at in my relationship and my life. Why would I want to add the stress of planning a wedding or god forbid a baby?

I’m 25 years old. I’ve just gotten started in really living my life. I almost laugh any time someone asked when we are going to get engaged, because I’m like uh do you know how much a ring costs? A wedding? Since you want this to happen so bad, are you footing the bill? Trust me, I’d be happy to get married tomorrow, but the average wedding today in America costs $33,00!!! That’s insane. I’m in over my head on student loan debt. Why would I want to go into further debt so I could wear a pretty dress and throw a party. honestly, a wedding is such a scam. And don’t even get me started on how much babies cost.

So, to all of those out there that feel the need to ask a couple when they’re getting married or having babies or whatever during this holiday season – to you i request an upfront donation to such couple. Trust me. If my aunty handed me a crisp $100 bill and said put this toward an engagement ring, I’d be much more apppreciative. 

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